I was once a perfectionist! There you go. My full confession.
I've learned enough to justify sharing my experience and advice with other fashion professionals that suffer from the same affliction.
Perfectionism is not a healthy condition to live with.
As I've grown older my need to drive myself to be perfect in all areas of my life has significantly mellowed. I'm now far less driven to push myself. A combination of hard knocks, setbacks and a developed attitude of "life's too short" has meant that I'm far more considered about the need to get it all "just right".
My family still laughs now at how I used to brush the fringed edges of a Persian rug so that all the tassles were aligned! The room didn't look perfect unless the 2 metres of fringe was perfectly presented.
And my husband still can not understand why I would put mats over the top of mats in my car so that the original mats would stay protected! Only the next owner benefited from this step toward having a perfectly...
If you're a creative then you'll understand the importance of visualisation and the power of imagery in helping you create new ideas for your designs. These techniques are fundamental to our being.
Every designer will be very familiar with mood boards and the important role they play in the design process.
Imagery can often be therapeutic too, helping us to release deeper feelings and emotions, worries and concerns.
Words have a similar effect.
Journaling is a technique that can be used for boosting creativity, gaining clarity around difficulties and setting goals, using just words only.
In this post you'll learn about the benefits of journaling, how to get started, useful journal prompts and how to use journaling to change your beliefs and improve your fashion career.
First though let's look at what's in it for you. Afterall if there's no benefit, there's no point. Here are six key benefits of...
Is it really worth all the high pressure and excessive hours? We're not alone in working damn hard to meet deadlines, be super creative and find the next big thing. There are other industries just as demanding.
But it has its price.
And somewhere along the line, you've just got to ask the question "Is it worth it?"
What value do you place on your well being? Working around the clock and not getting enough rest puts your mental health at risk.
When we're fit and everything's all going fine we blissfully think we can just sail on through. And then we start some low grade self-medicating in numerous ways to bolster any weaknesses in stamina we might have. The odd drink here and there, some recreational soft drugs, a little bit of this and that. Yeah, we can do this!
We persist at it for a few weeks, then a few months which then turns into a few years and BINGO, it's our way of life.
Then it hits you.
One too many late nights.
One too many non-stop weekends.
This post is inspired by one of the lessons in our course for fashion professionals called How to Redesign Your Life and Live it Fully. In the lesson, we help you to recognise the toxic relationships that are negatively affecting your life and how to minimise the caustic effects of toxic behaviour you experience.
Fashion is notorious for the pressure it puts on its employees and many other stakeholders. Poor bosses, rotten management styles, and deliberate bullying can all be found in the industry.
Identifying and managing toxic relationships is important for your long-term well being.
First, some research to remind you of the potential there is for any of us to have toxic relationships. The more people in our lives, the more of a potential there is for us to be the victim of these relationships.
On average how many friends do we have?
In a study of 2,000 Brits conducted by HF Holidays, it was found that the average adult has 40 friends, including two best mates,...
One of my questions as a life coach to ask clients is "Do you feel you work hard?"
The answer is more often than not, yes. Because most of us have to work hard to make our careers, families, and communities successful.
Not working hard doesn't seem to be an option in most cases. It seems modern mankind has evolved to a point where we're all trapped into having to work damn hard just to get by.
So if working more is the answer to achieving more in life and being more successful then in theory we've cracked the formula to success. Just work harder and more hours.
But it's not that simple. And researchers are now telling us our approach is actually doing us harm. Not only is the work we produce at the end of a 14-hour day is of poorer quality than when we’re fresh it also undermines our creativity and our cognition.
In a business that can only truly thrive on creativity working long hours reduces that creativity.
Over time, it can make us feel physically sick...
If you are not familiar with coaching then you should find this post helpful as it explains what business coaches do and how they can help you in both personal and professional areas of your life. We'll also cover the difference between coaches and consultants and how to get a complimentary coaching session to test out the process.
The term for a coach was first used back in the 1800s referring to a trainer or instructor that would help a candidate through their exams to achieve higher grades and better results.
We know of a coach in other respects as a means of transport to get you from one place to another. And as far as business coaches are concerned their role is to get a business from where it is now to where the business owner wants it to be in the future, aiming for improvements in specific areas.
The International Coaching Federation (ICF) defines coaching as "partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process...
According to recent studies, one in four people in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year. If you’re working in a creative job such as fashion then you’re 25% more likely to suffer.
Anyone unfamiliar with the industry is going to see it as super glamorous. All that travel, extravagance, lavish sexy parties, colorful and eccentric creative characters Oh and the drama of it all.
It's not like that is it
For those really working in it at tailors dummy and pattern blocks the experience is something very different leading many to experience serious damage to mental health.
Let's face it the heavy workloads and hectic schedules are part of the daily experience forced by cycles for “ready to wear” collections and ever faster fashion meaning turnaround times of 21 days.
Then there's the heavy diary commitments for fashion weeks and one-off PR events that require round-the-clock availability and commitment. Be there or...
This is my first post for 2018 and the year has started off gray and somewhat miserable as far as the weather is concerned. I'm looking for the spring sunshine to start soon and to brighten things up all around.
My partner suffers a little from seasonal affective disorder, that condition of feeling blue and down due to the lack of sunlight and bright days. He finds it takes the edge off the normally happy disposition and air of positivity that he generally has.
He's not alone in this either. According to psychiatrist Dr. Elinore McCance-Katz:
"It's been shown pretty clearly that as daylight decreases, starting in the fall, people will have more feelings of depression and anxiety. If they are feeling depression and anxiety they will report stress."
I'm lucky. I work doing what I love and have the added benefit of being my own boss, running my own business and managing my own diary to fit in with the needs of my family and how I want to balance my life.
I love the word - Reinvigorate! It sounds powerful, earthy and energetic. It's not a word you often hear used in business nowadays but it's the perfect antidote to a business that is failing.
When you re-invigorate your business you fill it with life and energy. You can energize teams, sales, customer experiences, shareholder value and more when you choose to reinvigorate your business.
Do you need a 'Boot up the backside? Where should you exactly start?
Well, that depends upon where you're lacking results. In my experience, most business owners or department heads know where they are struggling and why but the drive to hit targets often distracts them from taking the necessary steps back, hovering above their business and reflecting upon how to proceed and move from fuzzy to focused.
Over time the once clear vision they started with becomes distorted, irrelevant and inappropriate. Things change and instead of building a business toward their vision they simply go through the...
If your boss has just given you a negative performance review, you may feel shocked, hurt, angry or confused. Ouch, these can be crushing and leave you feeling deflated and questioning what did you do wrong or what more could you have done?
Often times we may not agree with them and wonder how they came to conclude that our performance warranted such a harsh review.
In fact, you may even question whether or not the review is even about you!
“No one bats a thousand,” says Mitchell Marks, professor of management at San Francisco State University and president of the consultancy JoiningForces.org. “We’re human beings. And sometimes a reality check is quite valuable.” Without feedback, after all, there wouldn’t be any possibility for growth. “Always getting a glowing review means that you’re not challenging yourself,” says Sheila Heen, author of Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well....
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